Obsessed With Relationship

I know that in our twenties, the first world problem always revolves around relationship thingy. I am still in my twenties. So..

As you may already know, mantan, gebetan, pacar adalah tiga donatur utama istilah baru dalam percakapan. Contohnya : galau, baper, friendzone, TTM (Oh God, I feel so old knowing this term), ababil, move on.

Actually, I’ve been disscussing topic about ‘Dampak Nyata Posting tentang Mantan : Tinjauan dari Segi keGRan, Baper, dan Perasaan yang Tertinggal’ with my bestfriend, let’s called her Esmeralda.

It started when I praised Esmeralda about her writing in blog, but it’s weird that she mentioned about her ex boyfriend there. But then she said, “I actually posted about my ex but I take it down.”

Nothing wrong with posting tentang mantan right? True, indeed. I even posted about my ex last Thursday in this blog.

And while I said that, Esmeralda pointed out that it really risky to do that. She added, “Your ex maybe stalking your medsos, and he will be ke-GR-an. In the end, he will think that you still have feeling for him.”

I wonder why she thought that her ex stalked her blog.

I asked Esmeralda, “Really? Why do you think he will stalk you? By logic, if you say that, it is actually you that still have feeling. You know, unconsciously you want him to stalk you, so you are afraid.”

She replied, “Nope, it’s not that. I just avoided unnecessary drama. Moreover, it seems I wasted my time doing that.”

Esmeralda definitely has point there.

But WHY? Why we sometimes want to post about exes? Or even scarier, why we even care if he stalked us or not?

Let’s talk about it.

First, I think our generation have so much media to express our feeling that we mindlessly obsess with past relationship. That’s also perhaps the reason why we somehow baper-tiada-akhir. We keep bring it up, serve it on the table, end up eating it.

This will sound harsh. Maybe another reason is simply because we don't have anything better to do with our life.

When our life is suck, we will automatically being obsessed with something that we think is nice, which is relationship. The companion of someone.

Yes, if you have too much leisure time, you will forever deal with the same relationshit. You may post like ‘gimana ya cara biar dia peka?’, ‘kok ngga pernah ngertiin aku sih’, ‘Ya Tuhan sakit banget diginiin’, ‘jujur aku masih belum ikhlas’. As if the world must know your problem.

Remember, you should really think LESS about love. Don’t be blinded by what you presume to be love.

You have life. Don’t drown in such petty human emotions.

You are not alone. You have friends, family, and maybe pets. Forget about the internet for awhile. Go on dates. Keep yourself occupied with movies, reading, cooking, and work. Whatever float your boat.

"Well, if you don't feel complete without a relationship, you'll never feel complete with one."

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